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Careful How And Where You Answer

 

Careful how you answer.

Careful talking in public spaces.

Many conversations are overheard in supermarket aisles, restaurants, elevators, and just about anywhere people gather.

Are you aware of who might be listening?

 

 Who's listening

 

 

Think about what is said in public, on the phone, in a text, in an email, in a blog,  or even in a comment.

Who is nearby and has access to what you say?

You could be on someone's speakerphone. 

What if your message goes to an office or general voice mail?

What if your message goes to the wrong person?

 

Think about who's listening.

Think about who could listen or read your message.

How would you feel if ________ was listening?

You fill in that blank. 

 

A few with access to your information might be:


Your seller

Your buyer

The co-op agent

A relative, an ex, or friend of one of the parties

A competitive buyer or agent

The Real Estate Commission

Your broker

The Media

The General Public

 

Don't say anything that you don't want everyone to hear.

 You never know who might be listening.

 

How and where do you answer your phone?

 

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Comment balloon 59 commentsMargaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland • September 04 2019 07:09PM

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Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland So true, and probably my single worst careless habit. Loose lips sink ships.

Posted by Lauren Williams, CPO, Professional Organizer: Puget Sound homes (Casual Uncluttering LLC) about 2 months ago

Good to see you Lauren Williams, CPO 

One more thing. Make sure your phone is OFF after you finish a conversation. I have overheard some pretty interesting stuff!

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Great reminder to watch what we say!  Thanks for a great post, Margaret!

I love to remember the good ole "Thumper rule" -- "If you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all!!!'

Posted by Virginia Youngblood, DO-STAGE! LLC - Home Stager - ASPM® (DO-STAGE! LLC - an ASPM® Home Staging Company) about 2 months ago

Virginia Youngblood  That's a good rule and very important in real estate!

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Margaret- you know I can remember when I was just a kid my aunt would always tell us when we were in public not to mention anyone's name in public. And loved your point to Lauren Williams, CPO We had a friend coming to stay with us and he forgot to turn his phone off. We could hear him and his colorful language while he was getting lost on the highway! LOL

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) about 2 months ago

Kathy Streib Your aunt was very wise! We could really use her wisdom today. Never mention ANYONE'S name in public.! 

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

My mother use to caution those same words, Margaret, "Don't say anything you wouldn't want everyone to hear."

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) about 2 months ago

CONGRATULATIONS Margaret, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) about 2 months ago

Morning Margaret.

Our privacy left the building years ago. Always mindful of what I say and who I say it to

Posted by James Dray, Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results (Fathom Realty) about 2 months ago

Good morning Margaret. Careful what you say today because it can haunt yout tomorrow. Just ask any politician. Enjoy your day!

Posted by Wayne Martin, Real Estate Broker - Retired (Wayne M Martin) about 2 months ago

Hi Margaret,
This is such a great subject.  I'm always mindful that anything I say online could be seen by anyone and everyone!  You bring up a great point about public conversations as well.  You never know who knows who do you?

Posted by Carol Williams, Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager (Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals.) about 2 months ago

Hi Margaret... great reminder. I've always been very circumspect about what I say in a public or semi-public swetting... but I overhear enough conversations all over the place that often have me shaking my head. Of course, I feel that way about social media... people carry on all sorts of inappropriate conversations there as well.

Posted by Nina Hollander, Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage ) about 2 months ago

Hello Margaret - A word to the wise?  Hopefully, the wise understand that "loose lips sink ships" and that we don't always know who is listening but caution and remaining quiet is good advice.  

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393 about 2 months ago

Hi Margaret this is something I talk about while teaching CE classes. And these days it's even more important with everybody talking on their cell phones and sometimes on speaker.  Zip it! I say!  Here's the picture I use to get the idea embedded in their minds!

 

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten - Phoenix Homes Sales, 603-380-4886 (Phoenix Property Shoppe) about 2 months ago

                                       Featured in BananaTude Group!

 

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten - Phoenix Homes Sales, 603-380-4886 (Phoenix Property Shoppe) about 2 months ago

And Myrl Jeffcoat your mother was smart and you listened. Thanks for the feature in OFG!!

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

You, James Dray , are a very smart man.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Wayne Martin So very true!

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Carol Williams The use of cell phones is so prevalent, it is easy to overhear conversations...even in the next stall.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Nina Hollander It is amazing how much people will reveal in public places, unaware of who may be listening. It can easily turn heads!

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Michael Jacobs Yes Sir  "...we don't always know who is listening but caution and remaining quiet is good advice. " 

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS 602-380-4886 Fabulous picture to make your point when teaching CE. They are lucky to have you!

Thanks for the BT feature. You are so special.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

I have two applicable rules for this subject.

Don't say anything (in person or online) that you wouldn't be comfortable saying
1) ... in front of your mother.
2) ... in front of a judge.

Posted by Alan May, Helping you find your way home. (Jameson Sotheby's International Realty) about 2 months ago

Alan May Love this comment! That would keep a few people quiet. May I give you a gold star for best comment?

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

You've got it spot on, Margaret!  I'm always amazed at people who talk on the phone with no regard for others around them or what the content of their conversation is!  

Posted by Gordon Crawford, Your Morris County Specialist! (Gordon Crawford Home Selling Team) about 2 months ago

Good morning Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland ,

A great reminder..word to the wise..you never know who is listening. I hear conversations in a public setting that I wonder what the party is thinking when talking out loud like they do. 

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899) about 2 months ago

Being mindful is so important in business. Fantastic post Margaret!

Posted by Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!, So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR (Prado Real Estate South) about 2 months ago

I think Alan May said it - no way I can improve on his answer.  I do observe far too many people talking loudly on a cell phone for all to hear. Thanks for the reminder, Margaret. D 

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) about 2 months ago

I had a long career on Wall Street prior to becoming an agent. The compliance department would always highlight the instance of needing to crimininally prosecute staff that would talk openly in public on confidential deals such as conversations overheard on commuter trains which lead to insider trading. Even when I am on the subway, without even wanting to pay attention- NYC is the largest small town in the world, and you can overhear things that you shouldn't.

Posted by Adam Feinberg, NYC Condo, Co-op, and Townhouse specialist (ANCHOR ASSOCIATES) about 2 months ago

My son was working recently at a local Starbuck's. He texted me and told me that two real estate agents were sitting next to him. I asked him how he knew they they were brokers. 

He said he knew their names, who they worked for, and even got the name of the person they were discussing. He had never met either before! It was all through their conversation . . .

Posted by Margaret Goss, Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate (Baird & Warner Real Estate) about 2 months ago

Especially if you're dealing with a real estate transaction that is off market or FSBO! Some people have big mouths lol ! 

Posted by Mike Easton, Creative lending solutions from coast to coast (Movement Bank) about 2 months ago

Gordon Crawford Good to see you. It is amazing what people will say.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Thanks for reminding us about comments, and I think that Alan May says it great, too. Now I'll add it to my calendar, too. :)

Posted by Steffy Hristova, Tempe AZ Realtor - Your Home Close to Your Work! (HomeSmart Elite Group Tempe AZ Tel: 480-966-9353) about 2 months ago

Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR  You do have to wonder...what are they thinking?

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

 

Thank you Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! Good to see you

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD 

I agree with Alan May who says:

"I have two applicable rules for this subject.

Don't say anything (in person or online) that you wouldn't be comfortable saying
1) ... in front of your mother.
2) ... in front of a judge."

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Adam Feinberg Perfect example. My experience was at the hospital and things overheard in the elevator. I cannot even mention them here but there were rules changed because of this behavior. 

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Margaret Goss Such a perfect example!

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Mike Easton Yes some people do!

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Steffy Hristova 

I  also agree with Alan May who says:

"I have two applicable rules for this subject.

Don't say anything (in person or online) that you wouldn't be comfortable saying
1) ... in front of your mother.
2) ... in front of a judge."

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Margaret, what I say privately, publicly to friends, relatives, clients and potential clients is the same... you get the real deal I do not have a different story for one... so if they over hear me in the Grocery Store it is OK... Endre

Posted by Endre Barath, Jr., Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002 (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices) about 2 months ago

Talk about being overheard. Those Plexiglas-barriers found in banks make it difficult to whisper thus everyone knows how much money you will leave with. I used to work with a guy who made some fast Real Estate moves and if something came up he would literally "grab" my ear, cup it & speak in to it

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) about 2 months ago

Endre Barath, Jr. You are the real deal and would never talk about another person or transaction in the grocery store!

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Love the post, and all the great comments! I try to make sure I am careful who I say things to, and where I say them!

Posted by Tom Bailey (Margaret Rudd & Associates Inc.) about 2 months ago

I have had to refrain myself numerous times on Face Book !!!!!!!!!

Posted by Michael J. Perry, Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist (KW Elite ) about 2 months ago

Tom Bailey The most important thing is to be aware of what you are saying and where. Who else might be listening?

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Michael J. Perry  And that's a very good thing.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Margaret, there are things that I would say to my mother or to a judge under oath, that I really would not want everyone to hear! I would not be ashamed I said them, but still would not want everyone to hear

Posted by Tom Bailey (Margaret Rudd & Associates Inc.) about 2 months ago

Tom Bailey And everything we say and hear is not for everyone!

There is plenty of personal information, shared with us, that is not to be repeated. This was learned from my days of being an RN. Patient confidentiality...now client confidentiality!

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

I've heard public conversations many times about people I know or at least know of. 

You NEVER KNOW who is listening.

It can be very interesting the things people openly discuss.

Posted by Sharon Tara, New Hampshire Home Stager (Sharon Tara Transformations) about 2 months ago

Sharon Tara Interesting, dangerous, intriguing, embarrassing, and lots more things...depending on the subject discussed and who's listening. 

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

I was scheduled to be interviewed and called a judge, an old friend, and asked him for advice. Among other things he said:
1. Do not tell a reporter anything that you would not want printed on the front page.
2. You have been asked to tell what you have learned from your career. Stick to facts and avoid opinions. You are a historian not a social commentator.
3. Be true to yourself and your own ideals. If you can't do this without saying something that will get you in trouble, shut up. Silence in response to a provocative question can be a telling answer. "No comment" may be as meaningful and a real answer.

Posted by Zippy Larson about 2 months ago

...what have you heard Margaret?

Yes, it is wise to be careful what we say, and good to let people know when they are on speakerphone.

Posted by Bob Crane, Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671 (Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities) about 2 months ago

Bob Crane  I have heard a lot!!!.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 months ago

Oh, you know I couldn't agree more, birthday girl! I hope you're having a fantabulous day, Doll! ❤️ 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) about 1 month ago

Hi Margaret:

You are so right on target here. It's pretty amazing what you hear people saying on the phone, in elevators, standing in line, etc. And don't forget to make sure you DID hang up that call on your SmartPhone after a conversation or when leaving a message before you are saying things the other party could hear.

In an unrelated vein I find it ironic that as careful as the medical community supposedly is about privacy that there really is none when people are checking in for appointments.

Jeff

Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) about 1 month ago

 

Jeff Dowler, CRS This one is important 

" And don't forget to make sure you DID hang up that call on your SmartPhone after a conversation ''

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 1 month ago

I believe it was Suze Orman who said something along the lines of Consider that every word you speak is being broadcast to the universe - because it is.

If you don't want the world to know - stay silent!

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) about 1 month ago

Marte Cliff They are some wise words from Suze.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 1 month ago

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