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How Can We Help With Scamming?


This recent post  opened a whole new meaning on scam. I am receiving calls of how our own industry professionals and our clients are being scammed.



 scam alert


The problem: some of these dishonest, unscrupulous men (so far they have all been male) are preying on women. The ones I am hearing from are in real estate or own property. They are single, recently divorced or widowed.

These men are getting close with them, borrowing money, paying it right back. This gains their trust.

And a little while later they manage to get large sums of money or a hold on their real estate property in various ways. Some have posed as  real estate investers, another wound up married ... her accounts cleaned out and her home lost.

I have helped one client to avoid a scam by giving her some things to look out for.


These are smart (but lonely) women who have been taken…first romantically..then for large financial losses.

The victims are too embarrassed to file a report.  These con artists continue to get away with these crimes, sometimes pitting these women friends against each other. By the time the first one realizes she has been taken, try to warn the others, but it is too late.

These  need to be reported. These are serious crimes and embarrassment should not the deterrent.


Any ideas  how we can help?


Margaret Rome

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I also tell clients if they think it is a great deal then ask me first.

It has saved seveal people from hearache!

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) almost 2 years ago

I find there are two types of people who fall for scams, one who are naive the other who are greedy and think they can get something for nothing.... I sell a great many vacant lots and when I sell them for little money there is a reason..... you either pay a lot to develop it or you are taking the chance that it might be a challenge but for the price you are willing to take that chance...up front you get the answers...never the less I fend of close to a couple hundred calls and emails from stupid and greedy people they are lucky I am honest with them...Endre

Posted by Endre Barath, Jr., Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002 (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices) almost 2 years ago

Good morning, Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland I think it would be difficult to just fall into a scam like that.... are people that naive? are they that desperate? 

Posted by Barbara Todaro, Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team (RE/MAX Executive Realty ) almost 2 years ago

It is sad that scammers take advantage of women and seniors. Maybe senior centers should have  seminars for seniors and talk about various scams to avoid.

Posted by Gita Bantwal, REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel (RE/MAX Centre Realtors) almost 2 years ago

I have noticed on Facebook, I am continually getting "friend" requests from single men I do not know, and don't have any connections to friends I have.  They are usually pictured as military men.  Also, they don't have much history on their timelines, so they haven't been on Facebook long.  Those are always a warning.  I delete the requests, and report them as spam.  Propbably the profile picture belongs to some innocent guy out there who hasn't a clue.  Darned catfishes!

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) almost 2 years ago

Good morning, Margaret... I just don't know what to say that would help anyone. I'm always amazed that mature women don't see this from a mile away... I'm just not that naive. It's hard for me to get into the head of someone who falls for these scammers. And this goes not just for women, but seniors, as well. I'm a senior, my husband is 80 years old, we have a lot of friends over the age of 75... I don't know a one who would allow themselve to be scammed. 

Posted by Nina Hollander, Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor (Coldwell Banker Realty) almost 2 years ago

Good morning Margaret, I think on an individual level we can encourage anyone who has concerns to contact us so that we could give advice but, on a larger scale I don't have ideas on how this could be helped. I can relate with Nina Hollander I'm amazed that women aren't seeing these schmucks coming from a mile away. Sad.  

Posted by Amanda S. Davidson, Alexandria Virginia Homes For Sale (Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group Brokered By eXp Realty) almost 2 years ago

As a victim I can assure you I am a very intelligent woman but the scammers that are successful have their game down to a science and are extremely smooth in how they operate!  I have met several woman that are also very intelligent people that were scammed by the same person that scammed me.  We have law enforcement involved hoping to stop him from damaging others but our hopes of ever getting reimbursed are almost zero

Posted by Terry McCarley, REALTOR, SRES, CDPE - Cape Coral, FL (REMAX Trend - Cape Coral FL) almost 2 years ago

Juast when you think things are getting better then human nature and its ugly side rears its head.

Posted by Joe Pryor, REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties (The Virtual Real Estate Team) almost 2 years ago

Margaret the only thing that I can think of is a lot of getting the word out and educating women that this type of scam is on the rise. I've heard stories of this happening to very intelligent women which means these guys are very, very smooth operators.....but I prefer to call it very very sleezy. I hope women do report the sleez balls. Women must do their absolute best to let go of their embarrasment in attempt to help other women from it happening to them.

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten Broker, CRB, CRS, 602-380-4886 (HomeSmart International) almost 2 years ago

It's gross that people can wake up each day knowing they're taking advantage of others.  Where there is money, there will be unscrupulous characters trying to get it.

Posted by John Meussner, #MortgageMadeEasy Walnut Creek, CA 484-680-4852 (Mason-McDuffie Mortgage, Conventional Loans, Jumbo Loans, FHA, 203(k), USDA, VA,) almost 2 years ago

There are so many scams out there.  All we can do is stay alert and get the word out when we discover a new one.

Posted by Chris Ann Cleland, Associate Broker, Bristow, VA (Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA) almost 2 years ago

Margaret- All of these scammers are below the lowest of life. I don't think it's enough to educate via bulletins and such. I think that it would be helpful for groups and informal groups with friends to role play so that everyone can actually see what is being said. Today's scammers catch people off guard so that even the smartest and sharpest person might be fooled. 

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) almost 2 years ago

Terry McCarley Thank you for stepping up and sharing. I have talked to so many victims who were too embarrassed to admit they have had this kind of experience. Your comment is what I was looking for. Would love to see a group formed that could help. Let's talk again soon.

Posted by Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) almost 2 years ago

Thank you Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland - Until someone becomes a victim they will never understand just how smooth these men operate!  I totally understand why most victims are too embarrassed to admit what happened to them.  Most people are very quick to assume anyone who falls for the scams are stupid but that is not the case at all.  Happy to talk to you anytime! 

Posted by Terry McCarley, REALTOR, SRES, CDPE - Cape Coral, FL (REMAX Trend - Cape Coral FL) almost 2 years ago

Hi Margaret,
The sad thing is, scam warnings are everywhere and yet people are being scammed every day because they think it won't happen to them. The scammers are so good and so smooth.  Scamming is a very sore subject with me.  I tried to warn a dear friend who would not listen and, literally, lost everything.  Actually it has happened to two close friends... both very intelligent people.

Posted by Carol Williams, Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager (Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals.) almost 2 years ago

I can understand why the women would be hesitant to come forward at first - but they must. These creeps need to be stopped. No one should be embarrassed about trusting someone and falling for some pretty tempting bait. Time to shed some light on these rodents. D 

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) almost 2 years ago


                                 Thank you, Margaret. 

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) almost 2 years ago

Kathy Streib I am so glad you featured this in your weekly post. Again this subject was brought up on the radio show and again I received a call on the show and another afterwards.

The more of us who know about this can educate many others. Your featuring this is a wonderful way to have more people aware and talking. Thanks for the feature and for the text today.

Love your weekly Ah-ha posts. 

Posted by Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago


How terrible that these creeps are ruining women's lives.

I had a friend once who was almost taken by one of those online Nigerian scam deals. He had her convinced (hours and hours a day on the phone with her) that he was for real. I was able to convince her not to trust him before she lost any money.

Posted by Sharon Tara, New Hampshire Home Stager (Sharon Tara Transformations) over 1 year ago

Sharon Tara See we can do something! So glad you were able to convince your friend before it was too late!

These "scumbags" are quite personable, well groomed and as I smooth. 

Posted by Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

Hi Margaret

It’s appalling that this sort of thing is happening, but scamming just seems to be getting more and more prevalent, and perhaps harder to detect as it becomes more sophisticated. The best thing is getting the word out and hope others listen.


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (eXp Realty of California) over 1 year ago

Thanks for putting a focus on scams.

Scams work because they touch a need in certain people.

Scams don't work on all people. But when it touches a need in a person then the defense goes down.


Posted by John Wiley, Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA over 1 year ago

Spreading the word about scams is a beginning.  That said, many are still tricked into believing that a scammer is offering something of value.  I met a woman who sent $5000 on two occasions to a scammer.  The first time, her family and the small town postmaster retireved her check from the mail drop at the post office.  After receiving follow-up calls from the scammers,  she sent a second check and did not tell her friends and relatives.  

Posted by Sharon Parisi, Dallas Homes (United Real Estate Dallas ) over 1 year ago

Jeff Dowler, CRS If each of us could continue to educate and remind would be easier to report and stop. The embarrassment has stopped many from reporting.

Posted by Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

John Wiley It definitiely does not work on all people. In fact some are shocked that anyone could fall for these scams. As you said...

When it touches a need...the defenses go down. 

Posted by Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

Sharon Parisi How very sad that she could be swindled by a scammer and not listen to the people who really cared about her.

Posted by Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago