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Careful Who You Listen To

 

 

You have heard the term Consider The Source.

When newer agents ask for my help in real estate...

I warn them to consider who they listen to.

Find someone you really like,respect and admire.

Ask the  agent who has been helpful with a contract, pleasant as a listing agent, kind at an open house and professional when talking to buyers, sellers and other professionals in the business.

 

There are so many who are willing to help other agents. It makes real estate better for everyone.

 

 

Find that person who is  encouraging and  excited with your enthusiasm.

When asking for guidance, make sure you are asking in the right places. Look for someone with your own values. 

 

Looking back over the years I have heard these "helpful" suggestions.

 

  • You can't do real estate. You are too nice to work in that tough environment.
  • You can't sell that unique property adjacent to a cemetery.
  • You can't give away all your secrets.
  • You can't raise the listing price.
  • You can't spend so much time sharing with other agents.
  • Print media does not work.
  • You have to stay with a brand name company.
  • Blogging is a waste of time.
  • You can't always get a full commission.
  • You have to work with everyone.
  • You can't just be a listing agent.
  • You can't drive a two door car. 
  • You can't have a waiting list.
  • You can't be a solo broker. 
  • You can't be present for your showings unless it is an expensive property. 
  • You can't make your own appointments.
  • No one listens to live radio.

 

So glad I didn't listen.

 

 

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Comment balloon 39 commentsMargaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland • March 18 2017 02:24AM

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Oh, I thought this was going to be about Zillow 

Great post, very true!

Posted by Thomas J. Nelson, Realtor, ePRO, CRS, RCS-D, & Host of Postcards From Success Podcast (Big Block Realty 858.232.8722) over 1 year ago

Thomas J. Nelson, Realtor, CRS Is that what you wanted me to talk about? 

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

I'm certainly glad you didn't listen.  A strong start for new agents is to consider the source and to turn all those "You can'ts" to "Yes I can!"  Thanks for the great post.

Posted by Diana White-Pettis, GRI, CDPE, CNE, WHC Upper Marlboro Homes for Sale (Bennett Realty Solutions) over 1 year ago

Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland - there are so many things one should not listen to - and one should!

The list is endless - the world is out to discourage most of us.

What we need to do is - listen to our heart!

Posted by Praful Thakkar, Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale (LAER Realty Partners) over 1 year ago

I have no problem with people telling me I can't do something because it motivates me even more to do it!

Posted by Nathan Gesner, Broker / Property Manager (American West Realty & Management) over 1 year ago

Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland You are so right.  Good mentors are worth their weight in gold.  And you are one of the best!  

"Consider the Source."  That's a good term to remember in real estate and life, as well.  

Posted by Elyse Berman, PA, Boca Raton FL (561) 716-7824 CRS, ABR, GRI,ePR (Best Connections Realty, Inc.) over 1 year ago

Margaret - this is Catch 22. A new agent's hardest task is to figure and tell the BS from gold. And when you are new, it is very difficult to do. I have seen justification of every conceivable BS in Real Estate. A lot also depends on a person. What one can do, the other better not even try.

Pretty much like with our President. Name even one person who could have pulled it all off given what he is saying and what he is doing. You have to be Trump to act like Trump (whether it is bad or great). The tough thing for agents is to find themselves. Often comes with trying and failing

Posted by Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL, Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices (Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408) over 1 year ago

Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL Your comment would make another good post!

"A lot also depends on a person. What one can do, the other better not even try."

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

By the way, if we take it in a broader sense, and not only for newbies in real estate, this was and, probably, is the case with AR. We all built the list of those who we follow. By reading their posts, and checking their comments and figuring who is worth following. When you just come, you have no idea. Yu have to trust your guts... Of course, first you gotta have guts :)

Posted by Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL, Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices (Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408) over 1 year ago

Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL It has taken years to build our following on AR. The newer members don't have this history and  this is so true

' ... trust your guts... Of course, first you gotta have guts :)"

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

Love this ;)

Posted by Linda DeVlieg, Albuquerque Real Estate (Keller Williams Realty) over 1 year ago

I posted something a little similar today about being told I have to take crap deals to be successful. Nope...I choose to soar not clean up a mess. Great post as always. Carpe Diem!

Posted by Peter Lavelle REALTOR®, GRI SRES, ABR, SOLD@100%Market Value,or I Pay You the Difference (Keller Williams Real Estate) over 1 year ago

I have heard many of those too, Margaret. I think it is so important to associate with positive people that really care about you. New agents especially need someone to turn to that will not be a downer. 

Posted by Debbie Reynolds, Your Dedicated Clarksville TN Real Estate Agent (Platinum Properties) over 1 year ago

You can do anything you want to do!

Posted by Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089, Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info (Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers) over 1 year ago

Hi Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland I am glad this was included in mdaily AR email or I would have missed it.

I would put this on the must read list for any agent and/or Broker. Never ever listen to the naysayers...

Posted by Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker, Farm Land For Sale 308-627-3700 or 800-241-3940 (Mike McCann - Broker, Farmland Broker-Auctioneer Serving Rural Nebraska) over 1 year ago

Margaret great advice hope they are reading this post, too many Gurus too, Motivational or SEO or how to get Clients:)) not all are equal....Endre

Posted by Endre Barath, Jr., Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002 (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices) over 1 year ago

Nice post! And so true. Thanks!!!

 

Posted by Bunny Terry, A Different Kind of Realtor in the City Different (Keller Williams Santa Fe) over 1 year ago

I am glad you didn't listen too.  I have to agree there are plenty of those out there who are negatives ... and I've always stayed clear of those personality types.  I can do anything I put my mind to ... and I really liked all of your comments.  Sooo very true!  Thanks for sharing Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland 

Posted by Diana Dahlberg, Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563 (1 Month Realty) over 1 year ago

"consider the source," is wise advice.  Seek the sagacious souls to share your dreams, and wishes.  The small, mean, or jealous people will stomp all over your victories because they have so few.  

 

Posted by Mary Jo Quay (Remax Results) over 1 year ago

Good reminder to keep our focus on the positive!

Posted by Monica Hill, the REALTOR to help you discover Delaware (RE/Max Associates) over 1 year ago

Professional "victims" love to tell you not to try. I guess that's because misery loves company?

To heck with them! Take advice from those who succeed.

Posted by Marte Cliff, your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) over 1 year ago

All the "you can't ..." advice is saying no rather than yes. Good advice tells us we CAN do, can succeed, can reach farther.

Posted by Kathleen Luiten, Kauai Luxury Ocean Home Sales (Resort and Second-Home Specialist) over 1 year ago

Follow your business plan and you will be successful.  Learning to trust yourself will help you surround yourself with good sources.

Posted by Anna Hatridge, Missouri Realtor with Goodson Realty (Goodson Realty) over 1 year ago

Great post!  Thank you for the reminders. 

Posted by Rockie Marvel, REALTOR (214) 801-0908, Your Dallas Area Real Estate Resource (Keller Williams Central (www.RockieMarvel.com)) over 1 year ago

There are some pretty wise words here, Margaret. And considering the source, we should listen.

And aren't we fortunate to there are so many wonderful people here in AR to listen to and to be fabulous sources of learning?!

Jeff

Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) over 1 year ago

Great post, Margaret. I despise negativity. Encourage not discourage is my motto. However, it appears that you took the "you can't(s)" and turned them into "oh, yes I can (s)!

Posted by Chris Lima, Local or Global-Allow me to open doors for you. (Atlantic Shores Realty Expertise) over 1 year ago

I've been lending for 28 years and the same holds true for the lending industry. "Computers are taking over our industry", "You'll never work your way into that R/E Office", You'll never get that loan done".

There is a great song by Kenny Chesney called "Noise". It talks about all the miscellaneous negative noise we hear on a daily basis.

Surround yourself with influencers and positivity. Negativity is way too easy to find nowadays!

Continued success to all on this thread!

Posted by Jeff Cooper over 1 year ago

Sorry: Wasn't logged in when I posted:

 

I've been lending for 28 years and the same holds true for the lending industry. "Computers are taking over our industry", "You'll never work your way into that R/E Office", You'll never get that loan done". 

There is a great song by Kenny Chesney called "Noise". It talks about all the miscellaneous negative noise we hear on a daily basis. 

Surround yourself with influencers and positivity. Negativity is way too easy to find nowadays!

Continued success to all on this thread!

Posted by Jeffrey Cooper, VP of Mortgage Lending at Guaranteed Rate (Guaranteed Rate - NMLS ID #2611) over 1 year ago

Jeffrey Cooper Just listened to "Noise" 

I removed all TVs from my house almost 3 years ago. The silence is wonderful.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

Oh so true.  When I was new I was assigned a mentor and they were very negative.  I sought out another agent I really respected and we are still friends 20 years later.  So glad I met them, they helped me get started with good advice and a postive attitude. 

Posted by Sandra Paulow, REALTOR, Associate Broker, GRI, SFR (Aspen Properties, Inc. ) over 1 year ago

Sandra Paulow Glad you found another. In some companies a 'mentor'  is "assigned" to an agent. The agents get monetary rewards ( a portion of their first 3 transactions)..not my definition of a mentor.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

This is a great post meant to help us all.

It seems that negative people seek out the new agents and are so generous to distribute their garbage to them.

Great advice: Be careful of who you listen to.

Posted by John Wiley, Lee County, FL Real Estate GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA (Right Move Real Estate Group- EXP Realty) over 1 year ago

John Wiley With good training the new agents should be warned of this practice.

 

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

Great advice. Everyone has their own opinions, and some people are way more helpful than others. Always a good idea to filter who you should and shouldn't listen to.

Posted by Melissa Spittel, "Achieving Results Together " (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) over 1 year ago

Hi, Margaret!

Sounds like a lot of negativity to me.  The first step is to stay positive.  In my book there is no such thing as "can't".  Try different things and see if they work for you.  Different things work for different situations.  Bottom line is don't listen to the negativity. 

Brigita

Posted by Brigita McKelvie, Associate Broker, The Broker with horse sense and no horsing around (Cindy Stys Equestrian and Country Properties, Ltd.) over 1 year ago

Oh there are so many negative people ready to give agents advice!  However, you gave GREAT advice to new agents!

Posted by Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR, Experience Agent in Kansas City Metro area (Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes) over 1 year ago

Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR If more people were like the giving and sharing members on AR...what a terrific reputation we would all have.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

Dear Margaret,

Good going. You thought you could & you did.

I never listened to the "we do not have girl toilets ... " either.

Posted by Dörte Engel, ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland (RE/MAX Leading Edge) over 1 year ago

Dörte Engel Love your comment. 

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 1 year ago

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