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Mini Breakdowns Happen When Selling A House



In my experience, there are very few transactions that someone does NOT have at least a mini breakdown, a minor tantrum, crying spells or more severe reactions.

We, as professionals, need to understand and recognize the situation and stay calm through these outbreaks.



 emotions Margaret Rome


When you couple moving with an illness, a divorce, a death, a job loss, a move to senior housing, a move out of state, you are also adding

 increased levels of  stress. 


When first meeting with clients, I do talk about the emotional effects of putting their home on the market.


When one of these episodes do happen, I ask they call me or

at least remember these words:


 ''Take a deep breath, take a few steps back and say... Margaret Rome warned us this would happen."


Making people aware of what may happen can help soften the emotional reaction.

Of course my former nursing background has certainly come in handy in these situations.



What emotional outbreaks have you seen when buying or selling a home?


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Comment balloon 11 commentsMargaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland • January 19 2017 02:06AM


I absolutely no that is true.  I actually have a close friend, who lives in Florida, who experienced a significant mental break, when the sale of her home fell out of escrow three times.  Much of it had to do with bank issues!  They would say one thing, but then not perform!

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) about 2 years ago

Myrl Jeffcoat This emotional upheaval happens more than we are willing to admit. Thanks for sharing.  

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 years ago

I guess I'm the odd one out, after 30 years, I can't recall an instance of any emotional upheavals that have occurred, or at least none that I am aware.  If my clients were being strssed out about something, they never shared it with me.  

Posted by Gloria Valvasori, Accredited Senior Agent, REAL Experience | REAL Commitment | REAL Results! (BETTER HOMES AND GARDENS REAL ESTATE SIGNATURE SERVICE) about 2 years ago

I have a deal that the seller has at least one per day.

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) about 2 years ago
Of course all that is useless if it's the clients that cause us to do all those emotional out breaks
Posted by Ed Silva, Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally (RE/MAX Professionals, CT 203-206-0754 ) about 2 years ago

As a former nurse as well, I totally understand that it is so important to take care of our clients' emotional needs as well as our duties as agents! Selling a house alone is a task - adding in emotions can be overwhelming! 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods ( | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) about 2 years ago

Debe Maxwell I think those of us, with nursing backgrounds, are more aware and open to helping these emotions.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) about 2 years ago

Hi Margaret -- pausing, counting to ten, breathing deeply and other tricks of the trade certainly come in handy in a real estate transaction.  Even though it may be discussed upfront, some constant reinforcement underscores the value of this excellent advice.     

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393 about 2 years ago

Margaret, this is so true of so many transactions. Some are smoothed right over, some take a bit more hand holding and reassuring. I think that when a deal falls apart it becomes paramount that we know how to handle ourselves without throwing fuel on an already simmering fire. 

Because fall apart they can and do. 

Posted by Andrea Swiedler, Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties) about 2 years ago

There are all sorts of stories out there regarding these little "breakdowns",  Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland ... and it seems that some just love to share them.   And some love to play on the drama.  All too often, it scares the bejeezus out of too many potential home buyers .. or at minimum, raises their stress levels or makes them hyper-sensitive to issues arising.  

Preparation ... and having the right professionals at your side won't eliminate every possible or potential problem from happening, but it sures makes the handling of them easier .. and quicker.  That's the best advice a client can receive ... and the best insurance against "#*&!" happening.  


Posted by Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi, 708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience (NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656) about 2 years ago

My husband and I have been in real estate for 13 years.  The past year and a half we sold 3 of our own homes, 2 rentals (one of which we lived in prior for 8 years) and our primary residence.  I am in the business and myself had some emotional trauma while selling them.  My husband, also in the business had reactions he isn't proud of when we received the inspection reports and requests.  Lol.  We had to stop, breath and give ourselves the talks we give our clients.  Each personal transaction we do gives us more empathy toward what our clients are going through.-Kasey

Posted by Kasey & John Boles, Boise & Meridian, ID Ada/Canyon/Gem/Boise Counties (Jon Gosche Real Estate, LLC - about 2 years ago